Wednesday 29 October 2014

#kakinota : the ultimate gift by jim stovall

This book I like to call 2 in 1. Just like all things in life. 2 in 1 shampoo or 2 in 1 moisturisers etc.

It is a motivational in a story book. You'll enjoy the story plot and you'll get some inspirational or life guide notes too.

I believed it is to capture readers who want fast yet entertaining motivational facts. Sometime, the points are more easily absorbed into our mind and soul. Just like when we want to memorize something important by combining it into our favourite song.

I did that a lot. I memorized my school subjects with songs as my back ground. So when I want to recall certain facts, I remember the song and suddenly... wallah!

Okay.... This book is about a lawyer Mr. Theodore J. Hamilton and his faithful assistant Ms Margaret Hastings executed a will from the late Mr. Howard 'Red' Stevens.

Everybody in the family - the sons, daughter, in laws, out laws, relatives closed and far far away land received their entitlements except one.

The only person who, late Red Stevens supposed to hate, did not received any of Red Stevens properties............ yet.

Jason Steven 24 year old great nephew was fumed when he did not get his as easily as the rest of his family member.

And to make thing more interesting, his great uncle make him wait until next year with certain instructions for him to do under Mr Hamilton supervision.

He need to fulfill an elements within a month before he can open the next element in sequences.

Those are :

1. The Gift of Work
He who loves his work never labors.

2. The Gift of Money
Money is nothing more than a tool. It can be a force for good, a force for evil or simply be idle.

3. The Gift of Friends
It is a wealthy person, indeed who calculates riches not in gold but in friends.

4. The Gift of Learning
Education is a lifelong journey whose destination expands as you travel.

5. The Gift of Problems
Problems can only be avoided by exercising good judgement. Good judgement can only be gained by experiencing life's problems.

6. The Gift of Family
Some people are born into wonderful families. Others have to find or create them. Being a member of a family is a priceless privilege which costs nothing but love.

7. The Gift of Laughter
Laughter is a good medicine for the soul. Our world is desperately in need of more such medicine.

8. The Gift of Dreams
Faith is all that dreamers need to see into the future.

9. The Gift of Giving
The only way you can truly get more out of life for yourself is to give part of yourself away.

10. The Gift of Gratitude
In those times when we yearn to have more in our live, we should dwell on the things we already have. In doing so, we will often find that our lives are already full to overflowing.

11. The Gift of a Day
Life at its essence boils down to one day at a time. Today is the day! Plan how you would like the last day of your life.

12. The Gift of Love
Love is a treasure for which we can never pay. The only way we keep it is to give it away.

Readers will read how Jason completed his tasks until to the final element. It is how the author explained in details about each element of the ultimate gift. I believe all of them are equally important. It is what differentiate a good person than a bad one.

The 1st simple element we can try is The Gift of Gratitude. Once we wake up in the morning, before get out of bed, we should state 10 things we're grateful for. It need not be difficult. Just list out all simple things we had in our life. Things that we take granted all this while. Someone once said to me that things we take granted are usually free. Since they are free, we tend to overlook them. But once they are taken away, we cannot replace them.

The 2nd element we could give a try is The Gift of a Day. How would we spend our last day today? Remember.. tomorrow we will die. How and who we want to spend our last day in life. If we do this often, we can differentiate what is important in our life and what is to ignore.

Life will be less stressful if we can answer both questions truthfully. These 2 important questions are the basic element that teach us to focus our life more clearly

In the end, life lived to its fullest is its own ultimate gift.


                                   9/10

Monday 27 October 2014

#kakinota : eat that frog! by brian tracy

21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time.

As it is, the book explained 21 ways to achieved whatever we plan to do.

It means take ACTION NOW & FAST. Don' t  scumb to PROCRASTINATION and later we'll become scumbags.

I like it. I loved books which give guidance to readers to become a better person. When I read them, it got me thinking, "God! I can do this.". I feel motivated. My mind got me thinking more creatively even for a while.

The 21 greats ways are :

1. Set the table

2. Plan in advance daily

3. Rule 80/20 ( It got me thinking about Miranda Kerr philosophy - 80% healthy 20% fun)

4. Consider consequences

5.Practise creative procrastination. (I loved this one very much.)

6. Use ABCDE method

7. Focus on key result area

8. The Law of 3

9. Prepare throughly

10. Take 1 step a a time ( depends on situation, actually. Some situation need to be bulldoze forcefully to complete them)

11. Upgrade own skills (Strongly agreed)

12. Leverage your special talents

13. Identify your key constraints.

14. Put the pressure on yourself

15. Maximize your personal power

16. Motivate yourself into action

17. Get out of technological time sinks. (Strongly agreed)

18. Slice & dice the task ( depend on tasks actually)

19. Create large chunk of time ( I loved this too)

20. Develop a sense of urgency

21. Single handle the task.

There.... all 21 of them.

I am one of the procrastinator... I am.

I know that every morning I have this big ugly hateful 'frog' (task) to do but sometimes how I tackle them depend on my day.

The big ugly hateful 'frog' cannot be avoided. Even if I closed my eyes, deep in my heart, I know the frog still there. It is still there staring at me. Sometime it makes noises to irritate me. Then I have no choice but to face it and get it done with.

My way to overcome the big ugly hateful frog (task) is by forcing myself. I mentally talk to myself... I hate this frog (task)... I hate this frog (task)... so many times until the hateful and angry feelings overshadow that big ugly frog (task), grab it and swallow it force fully until I finish it. I will get all kind of feelings throughout the process - feel like crying and feel like vomiting but I just focus my mind and force myself to go through and get it done with. Only after I finished the process, I can proceed to the next task without feeling guilty or cheating.

If I try to cut and dice it smaller, I believed I will immediately stop on my second thoughts. I know I will.

That's how I eat my big ugly fat frog early in the morning... daily ( urghhh...)

Next....




10/10

Saturday 25 October 2014

#kakinota : scars by cheryl rainfield

It is a story about 15 year old Kendra Marshall.

She is a sexual abuse survivor.

The story explained how Kendra coping with the effect of abuse. How she tried to cope them by cutting herself. She sees them as a way to maintain her sanity when things become to hard for her.

The story explained how the abuse effected her relationship with her parents. How their concerns suffocated her. How she feel her mother never listened to her even from the beginning. And indirectly she blamed her for her ignorant.

Kendra feels closer to her therapist, Carolyn Fairchild. Carolyn is more of a mom to her than her own mother. Carolyn understand her. Carolyn never pushed her. Carolyn sincerely concerned about her well being.

She also find solace with Sandy and Mrs Archer. These people understand, appreciate and encourage her to do her paintings. Something that comes from her inner self even if most of her painting seems raw and scary to others.

She find true relationship with Meghan, who promised will not betray her when thing get tough and not afraid of being different.

I read a lot of books about sexual abuse. Maybe to others, these stories were fictional but I believe in them. Maybe the characters are fictional but normally the stories were from real life sources.

I also read some books about a survivor of human trafficking. The stories had me so traumatised up until today. Every time when there are news about missing people especially women or children, it got me thinking about those books.

Not every person could survive from the abuse, physical or sexual, even with the help from people around them.

It takes a long time and a lot of effort to heal the unseen scars. Only few of them who strongly enough to survive the unfinished abuse but most of them drifted further into the in depth of the abused left behind by the abuser.

                           

                         

10/10

I Lost My Way by Yasmin Mogahed

Alhamdulillah I finished this book. Actually this is a very simple book. Very simple English written. I believed this is one of ...