#kakinota : quiet by susan cain

The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking.

I love this book very very very much. I believe this book is a must read book especially for persons who dealing with people.

I also believe every parents should read it. Teachers too. Because if we can recognize the different between an introvert and extrovert at the earliest stages of growing, we can give guidances and supports accordingly.

I'm not talking based on this book only or any other books I read through out my growing up life. I'm talking based on my own experiences.

The topic is very dear to me and that's why it took me sometimes to finish it. I had to pause and reflected every moments of my growing ups. It makes sense to me now. I feel that every jumbles I've been through before fall into their places which I've couldn't justified to myself why I reacted that way or this way when situations became too intense for me at that point of time . I just followed my instincts.

I feel so relieved. It is good to know that a lot of people out there are introvert and some of us are very successful in their field too.

According to the famous Carl Jung in his book, Psychological Types (1921) :

- introverts are drawn to the inner world of        thoughts and feelings.
- extroverts are drawn to external life of           people and activities.
- introverts focus on the meaning they make   of the events swirling around them.
- extroverts plunge into the events                      themselves.
- introverts recharge their batteries by being   alone.
- extroverts need to recharge when they           don't socialize enough.

This book explained further in details and through few researches that :

Introverts and extroverts differ in the level of outside stimulations.

Introverts feel recharge in less stimulation and vice versa.

Introverts not necessarily shy. Shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, while introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating.

There are shy extrovert or non-shy introvert.

Introverts and extroverts able to stretch their personalities but only up to a point.

Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love or anything they value highly.

Introverts often have one or two deep interests that are not necessarily shared by their peers.

Dr Kenneth Rubin, Director of Centre for Children, Relationship and Culture at the University of Maryland, US writes :

"If you're consistent in helping your child learn to regulate his or her emotions and behaviours in soothing and supportive ways, something rather magical will begin to happen. He/she is learning to self regulate fearfulness and wariness."

"If you call her "shy", she'll believe the label and experience her nervousness as a fixed trait rather than emotion she can control. She also knows full well that "shy" is a negative word in our society. And above all, do not shame her for her shyness."

These... I agreed STRONGLY.

And I thank God every day until the rest of my life that I have a very supportive and loving parents. Their unconditional love helps me go through my darkest moments of my life in finding out "Why am I different?".

10/10